Anger is a powerful emotion and it is sometimes difficult for parents to know how to handle it with their children. When a child is angry, it could be related to them feeling misunderstood, falsely accused, unfairly treated or insecure. It is important to remember that it is okay for your child to get angry and that how they act on their anger is the key. There are many activities out there for kids that help them learn how to control their anger effectively.
Techniques to Try
Deep breathing is a great technique to use for anger and anxiety. Pinwheels, balloons and bubbles are great ways to do deep breathing with children. Another fun one is using a candle and flower. You start with the flower and have the child breath in nice and slow. When they are breathing in the flower, remind them that they are breathing in calm feelings and to hold it for two seconds. Then they release their breath by slowly blowing out the candle, pretending they are blowing out the angry/bad feelings.
Another activity is the tower anger management. This activity has children get a good visual of their problems getting locked away in the tower and have them come up with solutions for solving their problems. The tower is on a worksheet and the children write down their problems in the tower. Sometimes, the child will not be able to find a solution for their problem, and the tower will be locked away until one is identified. The tower anger management activity helps empower the child by separating themselves from the problem.
It is crucial when working with a child who has anger outburst that you teach them to have emotional awareness. You then should redirect their angry actions and have them accept those feelings. Children want to be understood so when you say, “It’s not a big deal, calm down,” it will just make them more frustrated and it can be counterproductive. Instead, understand their feelings and encourage an appropriate expression. With using the fun activities on anger management, children will learn these skills a fun, productive way.
By Alex Gill